Buckle up, heartbreakers and pixel flirts—Lark’s back on the mic! That’s right, it’s time for Lark Knows Best, your weekly dose of Second Life relationship wisdom, drama, and digital tea. Let the questions fly!
Dear Lark
My SL boyfriend and I split up and I can’t make tier without him, so I let a friend of mine move in to help pay the rent. She is driving me insane! Always with the chatter, chatter, chatter… and she’s constantly trolling me, following me to clubs, concerts and shopping. What should I do to get her off my back? Signed – Tailed in SL
Dear Tailed,
You didn’t sign up for a shadow, you signed up for a roommate. There’s a difference—and it sounds like your friend missed the memo. While her enthusiasm might be sweet in small doses, you’re clearly overdosing on togetherness. So set boundaries, tell her when you want some ‘me’ time, encourage her to explore other friendships or join groups. You’re not wrong for needing space. If she doesn’t get it, maybe it’s time to tier in solo. -Lark
Dear Lark
I have enjoyed my adopted family in SL for 3 years now. It’s a rambunctious bunch, lots of kids, Aunties & Uncles. The paterfamilias of the family just had a falling-out with his SL wife and she’s now out of the picture. I liked her and I don’t like her replacement. He wants us all to welcome the new one and call her Mom… I just don’t want to do it. She has terrible taste in clothes and a worse looking avi can’t be found. How can I learn to get along? Signed -Reluctant Stepchild
Dear Reluctant,
You don’t have to call her stylish, saint, or Mom. You just have to be civil. Think of her like a neighbor with loud wallpaper—tolerable from a distance, but not someone you invite to decorate your skybox. Smile, wave, keep it surface-level. If the paterfamilias asks for more, tell him you’re still adjusting. No need to fake affection or rewrite your contact list—just don’t start a war in family chat. Grace over gritted teeth, darling. That’s how you win.
—Lark
Dear Lark
I live with my mother- don’t ask, that’s a whole other letter- and she saw me in an intimate situation on SL. She just snuck in silently while me and a beaux were “flirting” up a storm. She won’t talk to me now! Help! Signed -Caught in the Pixel Act
Dear Caught,
Well, that’s one way to spice up family drama. Look, she walked in on something she didn’t expect—and now she’s stuck in silent judgment mode. You don’t need to grovel, but you do need to break the ice. Try this: “Hey Mom, SL got a little steamy and you got a front-row seat. Sorry for the surprise—can we laugh about it now?” Humor defuses, honesty heals. She might not love your virtual love life, but she’ll love that you’re brave enough to own it.
—Lark
Dear Lark
My bestie in SL is wonderful- a great friend, with a good heart, and a fabulous avi. So fabulous that I’ve become jealous over the attention she gets from everybody: women want to look like her, men want to get with her, and I just want someone to see me for a change. I don’t want to lose her, but what can I do? Signed -Dimmed by her Spotlight
Dear Dimmed,
Jealousy’s a sneaky little emotion—it slips in even when love and friendship are real. But here’s the truth: her shine doesn’t dim yours. You’re not her backup dancer, you’re your own headliner. Amp up your own avi. Find a look that screams you- quirky, cool, whatever makes you feel magnetic. Get out there solo sometimes. And talk to her. Not a jealousy dump, just a “Hey, I’ve been feeling a little invisible lately.” A real bestie will get it. You’re not asking for her light to go out—you’re just ready to glow, too. -Lark
That’s a wrap for this week, ghouls and goblins! But don’t ghost us—next Friday is Halloween, and Lark Knows Best is conjuring a special holiday edition. Expect tricks, treats, and Second Life drama with extra bite.
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