Dear Lark –
I had a two year relationship with a woman here on SL; I know, that’s like 25 years in RL. We were happy until we suddenly weren’t. There was a series of huge fights and we went our separate ways.
It’s been a year and we’ve both moved on, until… I saw her at a club with her significant other. We started talking and just like that the old feelings came flooding back. Now I don’t know what to do. I’m really fond of my current partner, but the sparks that are flying are incendiary and my old love beckons… help!
Signed – Catching on Fire
Dear Catching –
Two years together feels like a lifetime, and yet one unexpected encounter can reignite embers you thought were long extinguished. Here’s the thing about sparks: they can fly away as quickly as they appear. Treat this encounter as a reminder of your capacity for passion, not as a call to abandon your current relationship. If your present partnership feels steady but lacks fire, talk to your partner about ways to reignite that spark. If, after reflection, you realize your heart truly belongs elsewhere, then make a clean break before pursuing anything. But don’t let nostalgia trick you into mistaking old flames for new beginnings.
Sometimes the most powerful choice is to let the past stay in the past and to build a future that doesn’t require you to keep running back into the fire.
Signed – Lark
Dear Lark –
My group of SL friends and I have been hanging out for quite a while. Recently, I’ve felt increasingly shut out of things they are doing, conversations they are having, and all the in-jokes that we’ve always shared. One of the women has been outright rude to me. I’ve been trying to figure out what’s going on, but nobody will tell me anything. This is all getting out of hand. I need to find a way to get back that good old feeling.
Signed – Getting kicked out
Dear Getting Kicked –
Friend groups in Second Life can feel oh-so cozy until suddenly you’re standing outside the circle, nose pressed to the glass, wondering why the laughter doesn’t include you anymore. It hurts, especially when the silence is louder than any explanation. Don’t beg your way back into the fold. Stand tall, ask for clarity, and if the vibe has truly soured, redirect your energy toward friendships that feel reciprocal. The best way to reclaim that “good old feeling” is to create it anew, with people who value you now.
Signed – Lark
Dear Lark –
I have been in Second Life for 10 years, and have found a lot of friends over this time, some close, some even closer. My best friends call me Sister, and I’m proud of that – I love the female-centric society that Second Life seems to nurture. My problem is that for some reason, people I don’t know, or don’t care about, are calling me “Sis” and thinking that means we have some sort of relationship that’s not there. How can I get them to stop?
Signed – Not your Sis
Dear Not your –
Ten years in Second Life is a legacy, and you’ve earned the title “Sister” with the people who matter most. That word carries weight, intimacy, and trust in your circle. So when strangers toss “Sis” around like confetti, it cheapens something you hold dear. Protect the sanctity of “Sister” by drawing a clear line. The people who matter already know what it means. The rest can learn to respect your name or fade into the background where they belong.
Signed – Lark
Dear Lark –
I’ve messed up badly. I got a credit card to fund my Second Life and I’ve run it up to the limit. My husband will find out and I don’t know what to do, ‘fess up or find some way to pay it down quickly?
Signed – Deep in Debt
Dear Deep –
You’re not the first to let the thrill of Second Life spill into real-life finances, and you won’t be the last. But the hard truth is that debt doesn’t stay hidden forever, and secrets have a way of costing more than interest rates.
Choose honesty. Frame it as: “I made a mistake, I’ve already started fixing it, but I need your support.” It’s not just about the money, it’s about protecting the trust that underpins your marriage. Debt can be paid off; broken trust is harder to repair.
Signed – Lark
