Dear Readers –
Giving thanks has a way of grounding us. Whether we’re navigating the highs and lows of real life or floating through the magic of Second Life, there’s always something to be thankful for: a friend who checks in, a cozy corner of your favorite sim, a workplace that challenges you. Even small moments such as a shared laugh or a compliment on your avatar can remind us we’re connected.
This week, we’re diving into the season of thanks and celebration. From the warmth of Thanksgiving to the frenzy of Black Friday, and into the glittering stretch of holidays ahead.
Whether you’re surrounded by loved ones or logging in solo, this season is yours to shape. Let’s find joy in the mix, some gratitude, a few sparkles, and a little bit of chaos.
Dear Lark –
My Second Life partner invited me to their online family’s Thanksgiving, but I showed up in a turkey costume and got booted from the dinner table. They said I “ruined the vibe.” I thought it was hilarious. Now they’re barely speaking to me. Should I apologize?
Signed – Feathered and Furious
Dear Feathered –
Ah, the classic clash of festive expectations and self-expression. Here’s the thing: if your partner can’t handle a little turkey couture, maybe they’re not ready for your full feast of personality.
But before you fly off, consider this: was your costume a surprise attack or part of a shared joke? If you missed a memo about the Thanksgiving mood, a light apology might thaw the tension. If they’re still cold after that, let them stew in their own broth.
Remember, Thanksgiving in SL is what you make it. Next year, host your own dinner: dress code “fabulous,” menu “emotional leftovers,” and seating chart “whoever brings the wine.”
Thankfully yours -Lark
Dear Lark –
I told my SL boyfriend I’m taking a week off Second Life for Thanksgiving; family, food, real-life recharge. He got mad. Says I’m abandoning him. Everyone preaches “RL first,” but some people with no RL get obsessed. I feel guilty, but also… trapped. Help?
Signed – Stuffed with Stress
Dear Stuffed –
First, let’s carve out the truth: taking time for real life isn’t abandonment. It’s balance. If he’s reacting with guilt trips instead of grace, that’s a red flag.
Second Life can be a lifeline for many, especially those whose real-life connections are sparse. But that doesn’t mean you’re responsible for someone else’s emotional oxygen. You’re a partner, not a therapist or a 24/7 distraction.
If he’s feeling lonely, he can reach out to friends, go to an event, or, wild idea: reflect on why your absence feels so big.
You can offer kindness without sacrificing boundaries. And if he’s still sulking when you return? Might be time to ask whether this relationship feeds you or just drains your battery.
Take your week. Eat pie. Log off with love.
Signed – Lark
Dear Readers –
Black Friday in Second Life kicks off November 28, 2025, with hundreds of virtual sales, exclusive gifts, and limited-time events across the grid. Creators and shopping events are already rolling out deals. Many sales run through Cyber Monday, with some extending into early December.
Here’s your insider guide to navigating the SL Black Friday bonanza:
Tips for navigating the sales
- Start early: Many events launched before Thanksgiving and will run into December.
- Join store groups: VIPs often get exclusive gifts or deeper discounts.
- Use sale directories: Sites like Second Life Syndicate help you track what’s live and where to go.
- Check SL social media: Creators often post flash sales and updates on platforms like Flickr and Instagram.
- Don’t forget Cyber Monday: Some sales extend past the weekend, so pace yourself and revisit favorite spots.
Second Life Syndicate is curating a master list of Black Friday sales, including SLurls, exclusions, and group gift details. Creators can submit their own promotions to be featured. Second Life Syndicate – News from the SL grid
Seraphim’s Black Friday Sales List launches November 27 through December 1, featuring over 750 brands. It’s one of the most comprehensive roundups, perfect for deal-hunters and creators alike. Seraphim – Your premier Second Life™ shopping resource
The holiday blues in Second Life hit differently, don’t they? All the parties and twinkles and festive clothing, and somehow it still feels like you’re floating just outside the soiree. Everyone’s posting perfect winter scenes and cozy couple cards. It’s easy to feel like you’re missing out. You might be surrounded by avatars, but still feel emotionally distant, especially if your usual crew is offline or distracted. If real-life holidays feel bittersweet, Second Life can amplify that mood, especially when expectations clash with reality. So if the holiday blues start to turn into something deeper, know this: you’re not alone. Emotional distance in a virtual world is still real. Reach out to someone you trust, whether it’s a friend, a family member, or a mental health expert. Connection doesn’t have to be perfect to be meaningful. Even the simplest human touch can be the spark that brings you back inside the circle. Look for your spark.
Key Mental Health Communities in Second Life
- A peer support group offering weekly support meetings and 1-to-1 mentoring. All services are free, and the community emphasizes listening and mutual support for those struggling with a wide range of mental health issues.
Virtual Ability & Mindful Cove
- Virtual Ability has long been a hub for accessibility and inclusion in Second Life.
- Mindful Cove is a newer community gateway focused on mental health and emotional wellbeing. It provides resources curated by real-life clinicians, plus activities like meditation, yoga, horseback riding, and even a “Rainbow Bridge” memorial for lost pets.
